WAS CROATIAN’S NIKOLA KALINIC ACTUALLY ARROGANT?
Just before the final was played
between Croatia and France, a post was circulated about Nikola Kalinic, a Croatian
footballer, who refused to come on as substitute to play against Nigeria, in
Croatian’s first world cup group stage match. He complained of back pain, but
his coach did not believe him, consequentially, he was sent home and his
country went on to qualify for the final.
A lot of people circulated the
post, encouraging people not to be as arrogant as Kalinic, so they won’t end up
like him, but there was more to that, which they aren’t seeing.
Kalinic became more infamous his
act, because his country went on to qualify for the final without him.
What people do not know is that
what appeared to them like arrogance was a result of another condition which
majority of people suffers from, but do not know.
From Kalinic’s point of view, he
was right.
He felt he deserved a place in
the team, he felt he was good enough, and may have proven it in the past.
Surely, no one will say he is
wrong to believe in himself. Every one of us has the right to believe in
ourselves.
If the coach had not sent him
home, it would have been another story entirely, maybe one that we will all
emulate, encouraging ourselves not to settle for less.
If a player like Messi, Ronaldo,
Ibrahimovic or Modric had done that, no one would have accused them of
arrogance, in fact, the coach may be sacked.
What is the difference between
these players and Kalinic?
Did he realize the difference
between them?
What exactly was wrong with what
he did?
I analyzed the situation very
well for weeks after it happened, and found out that Kalinic was only suffering
from Grandiose Narcissism. This sort of personality disorder warps one’s sense
of reality about self and makes one thinks he deserves more than he gets. It makes
one overrate his importance and makes him think he deserves some special
treatment without having worked for it.
Surely, believing in oneself is
not a crime, overrating it surely makes one look arrogant.
I was a victim of this before I
got my healing and it justifies why was always accused of being arrogant, even
though I thought I wasn’t.
I had more knowledge of myself
than anyone else. I was aware of my potentials and what could become of me, so
I demanded special treatment from people, without having earned it. I did not
know they weren’t seeing what I was seeing, and that I had to work hard to earn
the respect, which I felt I deserved.
Nothing ruins potentials, and
truncates great future as grandiose Narcissism.
It makes you protect a reputation
which you do not have. It makes you demand respect for merely having
potentials, without having done anything with them.
Mario Balotelli of Italy was
another young player, who suffered from this condition and had his career
nosedived. When he came out, just at age 21, he was already making big impact
and was awarded the Golding boy, he was at the level of Messi and Ronaldo for
awhile, but where is he now compared to them? That is what Grandiose Narcissism
does to people’s career.
Perhaps players like Balotelli
and Kalinic might not have this knowledge, but you have it. You may be
suffering from the same thing too.
The best way to know you suffer
from it is to always expect to be greeted by people before you greet them.
Grandiose narcissism has reduced many careers and continues to ruin them,
because people who suffer from it will never admit they do.
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