7 TRAITS OF A GOOD FRIEND

Introduction:
It is said that the true value of friendship cannot be measured, but treasured. If you are among those fortunate few who claim to have good or best friends, you know that this could not have been more correct. You can have many kinds of friends from childhood, school, work or friends who are friends of your friends.
Do you treat them all of them on an equal pedestal?

Well, obviously not.
This is because it is difficult to treat all at par as not all are compatible in nature and attitude. You may strike instant friendship with somebody; however, it may take years for you to maintain it, dealing with its ups and downs before you get to know the person thoroughly.

When you reach a level of understanding where you can speak your mind freely without donning an artificial smile, without worrying about calling anytime, without caring to remember who last paid for lunch and without worrying about being judged, you will know that you have a friend for life.
Good friends indeed make life worth living.

The following are the core traits of a good friend:

1. Complete Acceptance:
The first and foremost quality that distinguishes a good friend is his/her ability to accept you as you are, without seeking to change you in any way, except for the best. He/she does not intentionally make you feel wretched when you make mistakes, and neither does he/she gloss over the fact that you have erred. Even though you may not be at your best, he/she will treat you the way you want to be treated.

2. Honesty and Sincerity:
It is often said that "honesty is the best policy" a good friend does not feel the need to pretend with you. He/she will be in his/her element when you are around. This is because there is no reason to impress you or others for personal gain or objectives.
Friendship cannot be fortified if the key elements of sincerity and honesty are found lacking.

3. Not keeping wrong records:
If your friend is one who keeps track of what you do wrong all the time, be assured s/he can is not a good friend or he does not just understand the implication of what he/she is doing. All that he will want is to care for you in the least conspicuous way and does not keep the record of wrongs.

4. Support:
Fair-weather friends will come asking for your help when they need your help and support, but will never be around when you want their help. On the other hand, a friend who is genuine will support you through thick and thin and will never leave your side. She will lend all possible support to you and will see to it that you attain your goals.

5. Togetherness:
Etymologically speaking, “unity is strength when there is teamwork and collaboration, wonderful things can be achieved" Therefore desire to be together comes naturally for good friends and they will always be with you if you are experiencing the dullest of days, or having some problems in life, or having momentous occasions such as your graduation or birthday to attend.

6. Not passing Judgment:
If your friend comments on all that you do or say and judges you at the drop of a hat, she can never be good friend material. The cornerstone of good friendship is complete acceptance which despite does not negate criticism, finds a way to correct in love. However, there are some exceptions of good friends, who do not just understand the art of criticism, but it is easier to judge your enemy than your friend. Good friends can disagree with you, but they try as much not to make you look inferior for your wrongs.

7. Happy To See You Happy:
Happiness is when what you think, what you say and what you do are in harmony. Your happiness is a source of his/her happiness too. If you have a friend who finds joy in your success and never gets jealous, you indeed have a good friend.
They can gauge when you are happy, sad, excited, shocked or upset and mundane. If you are down in the dumps for some reason, your friend will know how to make you happy and wipe away your blues.

Hope this article on traits of a good friend gave you an insight into identifying yours. Even though you have your family to look after you, good friends make your days a lot more fun that too with no strings attached.

Blessed are you if you have at least one such friend!

Written by:
Mr. Ogbonna Joshua (Wise-Josh)

Edited & Delivered by:
Soul’e Rhymez

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