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A few weeks ago, when I was invited to   Ogunlade Secondary School to speak on the topic “MENTAL HEALTH & BEHAVIOURS OF THE STUDENTS”   I took time to speak about sexuality and sexual orientation; I knew that I could not possibly speak about their mental health of adolescents and offer the best solutions without talking about their primary interest – sex!     Sex is the primary interest of adolescents & young adults; their major source of strength and motivation is sexual. No amount of holiness will take this away; parents and qualified educators can only help them manage it properly.     Nothing takes the attention of adolescents as sexual content & conversations and while this is an opportunity for the educators to discover and make the right sex education available to them, many of them are engulfed in the blame game, demonizing kids for just expressing their curiosity about sex.   We blame the devil for attacking young peopl...

  The Sexually Smart Boy is a sex education book for male adolescents (between ages 13 & 20). It contains a well-researched and arguably the best form of sex education for adolescents. This includes, but is not limited to strategies for maintaining Sexual Purity, strategies for the development of self-confidence, strategies for escaping sexual assaults & rape, strategies for escaping getting roped into sexual misconduct, and strategies for proper management of sex urge & crushes.     Book Highlights 1.       What you should know about sex now. 2.      Why you should abstain from sex now. 3.      Knowing when you are ready for sex. 4.      What to do if you have had sex before. 5.      How sexual intercourse influences your masculinity. 6.      Why you should take responsibility for your sex life. 7.   ...

  The Sexually Smart Girl is a sex education book for female adolescents (between ages 12 & 20). It contains a well-researched and arguably the best form of sex education for adolescents. This includes, but is not limited to strategies for maintaining sexual purity, strategies for the development of body confidence, strategies for escaping sexual assaults & rape, and strategies for proper management of sex urges & crushes.   Book Highlights 1.       What you should know about sex now. 2.      Why you should abstain from sex now. 3.      Knowing when you are ready for sex. 4.      What to do if you are sexually active. 5.      How sexual intercourse influences your feminism. 6.      Why you should take responsibility for your sex life. 7.       How to manage sex urges & crushes. 8.  ...

  Many people, especially those raised either by none of their parents, single parents, or parents that did not love each other and abused each other while the children are present often have faith in hate. Take me for instance, I did not grow up with either of my parents; my granny tried her best to raise me with love, but the environment, which she did not know about and did not know how to protect me from taught me to have faith in hate. My loveless environment implanted in me, faith in hate, and I manifested this faith in different ways. Growing with the mindset that everyone hates me except my granny, I spent a lot of time that would have been enough to appreciate those that loved me analyzing those that hate me, and responding to their hate comments on my works. The more I did that, the more I attracted haters and chased my lovers away. As time went on, it seemed all I had were only haters; love was dying in my life because I had faith in hate and not in love. By focusing so ...

One major wrong decision I made was changing my surname while I was in secondary school. How can anyone imagine me changing my surname without telling my parents or guardian? Who could have inspired me to do that? Who has done it before me?  The truth is that before I decided to change my surname in secondary school, I have never seen anyone change their surname. They may change their first and middle names, but definitely not their surname. Having not seen anyone change their surname did not deter me from doing so, I knew I needed to do so, and I did. For me, it was all that mattered and no one was going to stand in my way.  So, why did I change my surname?  I lived in Ilorin with my maternal Granny and other family members before I turned 5 and I did not begin schooling until I was 6. At that time, other kids staying with my granny had already started schooling in Ilorin.  I usually stayed at home with my great-grandmother whenever everyone had gone to work and oth...

One of the greatest pieces of evidence of self-discovery and development is faith in love. However, many of us are either trained not to have faith in love or learn to survive against all concerned because of parental negligence. This survival instinct makes us go through life concentrating on hate. Most of us grow up in environments where we are constantly reminded that we are not good enough; as time went on, those words found their way into our subconscious minds and we are constantly pushed by them. We grow to have more faith in hate and rejection than in love and acceptance. We believe that everyone hates us or they must do so before they love us and concentrate on proving points to them. By concentrating on hate, we are also blinded by people who love us and repel them by our actions that further lead to hate. Our faith in hate sometimes inspires us to glorious endeavors, but it is always at the expense of true happiness that comes with having a successful love life. By concentra...

Many people believe that graduating from the university makes them superior to others who dropped out or did not become students there at all. Although the Government makes it appear so for job allocation, it is not true! Believing it may keep you in mediocrity for life.       When I hear statements such as “a whole graduate with B.sc. Driving Dangote,” I understand why many graduates are unemployed and eventually take to crimes. These folks believe that becoming graduates make them more educated than others and they do not want to stoop low to do certain jobs that they think only the “uneducated” should do.   Many of these folks who cannot even practice what they studied in school have an entitlement mentality that keeps them out of jobs for a long time and renders them useless to themselves and society. It is not always that there are no jobs, it is usually that there are jobs that they feel too big to do because they are graduates.   If you think ...