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WHY YOU MUST HAVE FAITH IN LOVE (ii)

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  Many people, especially those raised either by none of their parents, single parents, or parents that did not love each other and abused each other while the children are present often have faith in hate. Take me for instance, I did not grow up with either of my parents; my granny tried her best to raise me with love, but the environment, which she did not know about and did not know how to protect me from taught me to have faith in hate. My loveless environment implanted in me, faith in hate, and I manifested this faith in different ways. Growing with the mindset that everyone hates me except my granny, I spent a lot of time that would have been enough to appreciate those that loved me analyzing those that hate me, and responding to their hate comments on my works. The more I did that, the more I attracted haters and chased my lovers away. As time went on, it seemed all I had were only haters; love was dying in my life because I had faith in hate and not in love. By focusing so much

HOW CHANGING MY SURNAME COST ME A SCHOLARSHIP

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One major wrong decision I made was changing my surname while I was in secondary school. How can anyone imagine me changing my surname without telling my parents or guardian? Who could have inspired me to do that? Who has done it before me?  The truth is that before I decided to change my surname in secondary school, I have never seen anyone change their surname. They may change their first and middle names, but definitely not their surname. Having not seen anyone change their surname did not deter me from doing so, I knew I needed to do so, and I did. For me, it was all that mattered and no one was going to stand in my way.  So, why did I change my surname?  I lived in Ilorin with my maternal Granny and other family members before I turned 5 and I did not begin schooling until I was 6. At that time, other kids staying with my granny had already started schooling in Ilorin.  I usually stayed at home with my great-grandmother whenever everyone had gone to work and other kids had gone to

WHY YOU MUST HAVE FAITH IN LOVE (1)

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One of the greatest pieces of evidence of self-discovery and development is faith in love. However, many of us are either trained not to have faith in love or learn to survive against all concerned because of parental negligence. This survival instinct makes us go through life concentrating on hate. Most of us grow up in environments where we are constantly reminded that we are not good enough; as time went on, those words found their way into our subconscious minds and we are constantly pushed by them. We grow to have more faith in hate and rejection than in love and acceptance. We believe that everyone hates us or they must do so before they love us and concentrate on proving points to them. By concentrating on hate, we are also blinded by people who love us and repel them by our actions that further lead to hate. Our faith in hate sometimes inspires us to glorious endeavors, but it is always at the expense of true happiness that comes with having a successful love life. By concentra

ARE UNIVERSITY GRADUATES SUPERIOR TO DROPOUTS?

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Many people believe that graduating from the university makes them superior to others who dropped out or did not become students there at all. Although the Government makes it appear so for job allocation, it is not true! Believing it may keep you in mediocrity for life.       When I hear statements such as “a whole graduate with B.sc. Driving Dangote,” I understand why many graduates are unemployed and eventually take to crimes. These folks believe that becoming graduates make them more educated than others and they do not want to stoop low to do certain jobs that they think only the “uneducated” should do.   Many of these folks who cannot even practice what they studied in school have an entitlement mentality that keeps them out of jobs for a long time and renders them useless to themselves and society. It is not always that there are no jobs, it is usually that there are jobs that they feel too big to do because they are graduates.   If you think that merely graduating f

CHILDREN DISOBEY YOUR PARENTS IN THE LORD FOR THIS IS RIGHT

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  If you cannot disobey your parents when it is necessary to do so, you are most likely never to live above mediocrity –the unwillingness to disobey your parents when it matters most is often the same as choosing to be mediocre except in a very few cases.   One of the best keys through which many parents lock their children’s brains and prevent them from truly living by making them obey them all the time even though what they are saying may be outdated, wrong, or even bad is the misinterpretation of a quote from the Bible, which goes thus: “Children, obey your parents in the Lord, for this is right. Honor your father and mother, which is the first commandment with a promise.” (Ephesians 6: 1)   My father recently came up with that quote when he exhausted all his persuasive skills to make me do certain a thing that I did not want to do. I disobeyed him without any apologies. This is not because I did not honor or respect him. I understand that respecting my parents is not the

HOW TO MAKE MONEY FROM WHATSAPP

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I started making money from writing in 2018 and that was about 8 years after I started writing. I started writing officially in the year 2010. I got my first newspaper publication in the year 2011. What it meant was that I wrote for 8 years without making a penny from it.   However, it was obvious that I needed to start making money from writing when I wrote a poem titled “I AM TIRED OF WRITING” , I had every reason to be tired; doing a job for 9 years without earning is either because I was stupid, I was doing it for passion, or I did not know how to make money from it.   I was doing it for passion but I also did not know how to charge for it. I was afraid I will lose my audience if I began to charge for my work – this called for another form of education, which I acquired. I have gone on to write 11 books since then and it has been making money for me.   The most recent of the books is THE WHATSAPP MONEY-BAG, in which I expose the strategies I have been using to make mone

BE A CHAMPION

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Some of you are too weak; you love playing the victim. Organizing pity parties is your thing. But you know what? Life is going to continually box you to a corner and hammer you down to mediocrity. You can complain as you want but life does not respond to complaints, it responds only to prices.   Life does not respond to luck, so don't ever think you'd be lucky. If there is any phenomenon such as luck, be sure he does not attend pity party too. You have got to be strong! You have got to give it all it takes. You have got to keep trying, and if you fail, go at it again. Life will eventually get tired and give you what you want. Life loves strong people and rewards them but only after testing their strengths. If you are weak, you will not be rewarded.   I am one hell of a guy who has refused to let life box me to a corner. Everyone knows that I am a fighter! I have stood alone more times in my life than with people and no crowd has won against me. I always believe that e

Why More Men Are Crazier About Sex Than Women

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It seems that there is a culture that makes it look as if neglecting certain emotions or pretending they are not there, as opposed to proper management is what makes men strong. This poor education contributes to why more men have fallen as a result of sex than women.   Young males are taught never to show emotions; when they fall and cry, some mother beats them and asks "why are you crying like a girl?" They say men should not cry. This grew out of the belief that crying is a weakness that must not be found in men. In reality, crying is strength. The more you withhold tears, the more you suffer from the pains that would have gone with those tears.   I was one boy whose emotions were also neglected; I struggled for acceptance as a kid. When my sexual feelings began to develop, it was hard for me to control; it was controlling me. I once begged a girl for sex, she turned me down. I can't even remember that girl now, but if you ask me, I will tell you that it was my

WHY BEING IN LOVE IS BETTER THAN BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP (II)

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  If you are in a romantic relationship and sincerely love and feel at peace with another person, then you need to reconsider the future of the relationship even if you are engaged to be married. Check if that other person sincerely loves you. Do not resist the person, but avoid cheating on your current partner.   If the other person loves you sincerely and you feel the same way towards him/her, much so that you do not have to hide your weaknesses from each other or lie about being perfect, then end your current relationship. However, before you do that, be sure what you feel is love and that the person loves you as much as you feel too.   Being in love is much more important than being in a relationship, but staying committed is more important than being in love. However, it is difficult and near impossible to stay committed to a person that one does not truly love. So in the end, being in love is more important than being in a relationship and being committed.   If you ar

WHY BEING IN LOVE IS BETTER THAN BEING IN A RELATIONSHIP (I)

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  The love between parents often extends to their children and so is the animosity between them. I suffered a lack of parental love growing up, owing largely to the fact that my parents did not love each other. They were never together.   I don't want to do the same to my kids - I want to love and care for them. I thought the best way I can change that was to get married to someone I love and who love me as much as I love her. All I wanted was one life with one woman and let it go at that.   My desire to allow my kids to have love from both parents is among the things that made me realize that being in love is more important than being in a romantic relationship. I am well above 30 years old, and I am not in a relationship. Not only that, I have not had a romantic relationship for a long time.   Does it mean women are not available? Far from it. So why am I not in a relationship despite I have written books on romantic relationships and helped a lot of people achieve su