WAS CROATIAN’S NIKOLA KALINIC ACTUALLY ARROGANT?



Just before the final was played between Croatia and France, a post was circulated about Nikola Kalinic, a Croatian footballer, who refused to come on as substitute to play against Nigeria, in Croatian’s first world cup group stage match. He complained of back pain, but his coach did not believe him, consequentially, he was sent home and his country went on to qualify for the final.

A lot of people circulated the post, encouraging people not to be as arrogant as Kalinic, so they won’t end up like him, but there was more to that, which they aren’t seeing.
Kalinic became more infamous his act, because his country went on to qualify for the final without him.
What people do not know is that what appeared to them like arrogance was a result of another condition which majority of people suffers from, but do not know.

From Kalinic’s point of view, he was right.
He felt he deserved a place in the team, he felt he was good enough, and may have proven it in the past.
Surely, no one will say he is wrong to believe in himself. Every one of us has the right to believe in ourselves.
If the coach had not sent him home, it would have been another story entirely, maybe one that we will all emulate, encouraging ourselves not to settle for less.

If a player like Messi, Ronaldo, Ibrahimovic or Modric had done that, no one would have accused them of arrogance, in fact, the coach may be sacked.
What is the difference between these players and Kalinic?
Did he realize the difference between them?
What exactly was wrong with what he did?

I analyzed the situation very well for weeks after it happened, and found out that Kalinic was only suffering from Grandiose Narcissism. This sort of personality disorder warps one’s sense of reality about self and makes one thinks he deserves more than he gets. It makes one overrate his importance and makes him think he deserves some special treatment without having worked for it.
Surely, believing in oneself is not a crime, overrating it surely makes one look arrogant.

I was a victim of this before I got my healing and it justifies why was always accused of being arrogant, even though I thought I wasn’t.
I had more knowledge of myself than anyone else. I was aware of my potentials and what could become of me, so I demanded special treatment from people, without having earned it. I did not know they weren’t seeing what I was seeing, and that I had to work hard to earn the respect, which I felt I deserved.

Nothing ruins potentials, and truncates great future as grandiose Narcissism.
It makes you protect a reputation which you do not have. It makes you demand respect for merely having potentials, without having done anything with them.

Mario Balotelli of Italy was another young player, who suffered from this condition and had his career nosedived. When he came out, just at age 21, he was already making big impact and was awarded the Golding boy, he was at the level of Messi and Ronaldo for awhile, but where is he now compared to them? That is what Grandiose Narcissism does to people’s career.

Perhaps players like Balotelli and Kalinic might not have this knowledge, but you have it. You may be suffering from the same thing too.
The best way to know you suffer from it is to always expect to be greeted by people before you greet them. Grandiose narcissism has reduced many careers and continues to ruin them, because people who suffer from it will never admit they do.

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